yeah. It really is hard to please everyone these days. Ya' know, I don't know how it comes where everyone expects so much out of me, someone who really shouldn't be expected to be anything more than a jerk. I mean, me, of all people! I'm not saying that I can't possibly be as good as how people seem to expect me to be, I just say that it's not so. Apparently I have to somehow hang our with absolutely everyone for the appropriate amount of time, or else I'm doing something wrong.
I think some people have to step back and think how they spend their time. Most likely you're never thinking, "Oh, I'll hang out with so-and-so this many minutes and then switch to that group for one hour." Would you like it if you had to do that? Would that be fun? No. It wouldn't. I would understand if I was downright neglecting someone, but people, you and me both know that anyone I want to hang out with is not going to be neglected. Sometimes I just don't see people.
Another rant I would like to place here is the component of just letting things go. Sometimes people do things that you may not be a fan of, but I realize that almost always, the problem doesn't originate from what they do, it originates from you reacting or overreacting. If it's nothing that you think should ruin a friendship, or that you need to tell them, let it go. People sometimes do stupid or rude things, but don't make a big deal out of it. Try looking at it from their perspective and how meaningless it seems to them. At the very most they're being a bit insensitive. If something genuinely is bothering, then don't hesitate from telling them, but do not make a big deal out of it.
Tele Quote:
"My hair reminds me of milk chocolate."
"Is that good?"
"It makes me feel delicious."
Far out in the uncharted backwaters of the unfashionable end of the western spiral arm of the Galaxy lies a small unregarded blog.
Saturday, June 19, 2010
Friday, June 4, 2010
Oh, love, so much to say
Sorry, Tele, I focus on the technical aspect... yes, the fear of rejection is a problem too. I don't know if that is the most rational fear though... I suppose because of the awkwardness, but if you REALLY like someone that shouldn't be what's holding you back. Emphasis on shouldn't. Can't always control our feelings so well.
Wednesday, June 2, 2010
Idk, maybe summore Love today? Tis late. Most likely rambling
LOVE, LOVE, LOVE... Is that all you really need?
Well, from what I'm seeing around me this whole drama thing is becoming a battle field. Everyone is trying to survive. Most of the battles are silly if you ask me. Example: eighth grade dating. Alright, I can't believe I'm saying this, but it seems as if those popular guys and girls (the LEGITS we shall call them) handle it better than us geeks do to some degree. The Legits are usually allowed to date on a whim, so there's no parental pressure. There's no moral pressure, because they don't have the same sense of morality and responsibility as we do. They would ask anyone they want to ask out, and guess what, that works. For us, the geeks, tis not so simple. Now, that's not to say that we don't date and don't have crushes... We do. We probably have much more infatuations than the Legits do, but for several reasons we can not act upon them. Plus, our feelings can be very complex, leaving us not able to decide what they should do, let alone, can do.
I come to you with the message to try and evaluate yourself. If you want to go out with someone, find out what's holding you back. This may seem obvious, but really look. You may say it's your parents, but is it really? Are you the one that isn't ready? Maybe it actually is your parents, but what I want you to do is narrow down that main factor that is holding you back. Usually, the one is your excuse, or real reason. There are probably several you can think of, but you can probably think of ways to get around them... If you don't agree with dating at your age, then so be it. I do. I believe that kids our age are perfectly capable. But it is here where I rant. The parents are at fault here! They rarely address this "boy/girl" thing with us geeks. Now, I know how awkward that is... But think about it. Have your parents ever said to you, "You're not allowed to date until this date." No, and I'm not saying they should restrict you, but they should portray how they feel at the very least. A lot of kids don't know when it's okay with their parents to start dating, including me. My idealism would dictate that parents allow their kids to go on dates as they please somewhere during seventh grade. That's a big changing-grade, so all of those new feelings are given reassurance and you feel like you don't have to have an awkward conversation or ever feel restricted.
Evaluate what's holding you back. If you really want to date someone.. ew, I was just going to say talk to your parents about it. I know that that's the normal advice, but let's face it, very few of us have the guts to go to our parents and ask when we're allowed to date. Countless follow-up questions would surface. If it's your parents negligence that is holding you back... Well, then, think of when you see society is saying it's okay (Parents surprisingly can't argue with society). If there's a legitimate dating dance, then it's okay to date (eighth grade dance does NOT count). If EVERYONE is dating, it's okay to date. Try and put off the dating thing, I say. But when those feelings come your way, find out what is holding you back SPECIFICALLY, and try and get around them.
Parents are difficult. Maybe a letter would work. Try that, perhaps. The real problem is when you're a guy, and you're afraid of the girl's parents. Heh. yet another excuse, Vwalah.
Well, from what I'm seeing around me this whole drama thing is becoming a battle field. Everyone is trying to survive. Most of the battles are silly if you ask me. Example: eighth grade dating. Alright, I can't believe I'm saying this, but it seems as if those popular guys and girls (the LEGITS we shall call them) handle it better than us geeks do to some degree. The Legits are usually allowed to date on a whim, so there's no parental pressure. There's no moral pressure, because they don't have the same sense of morality and responsibility as we do. They would ask anyone they want to ask out, and guess what, that works. For us, the geeks, tis not so simple. Now, that's not to say that we don't date and don't have crushes... We do. We probably have much more infatuations than the Legits do, but for several reasons we can not act upon them. Plus, our feelings can be very complex, leaving us not able to decide what they should do, let alone, can do.
I come to you with the message to try and evaluate yourself. If you want to go out with someone, find out what's holding you back. This may seem obvious, but really look. You may say it's your parents, but is it really? Are you the one that isn't ready? Maybe it actually is your parents, but what I want you to do is narrow down that main factor that is holding you back. Usually, the one is your excuse, or real reason. There are probably several you can think of, but you can probably think of ways to get around them... If you don't agree with dating at your age, then so be it. I do. I believe that kids our age are perfectly capable. But it is here where I rant. The parents are at fault here! They rarely address this "boy/girl" thing with us geeks. Now, I know how awkward that is... But think about it. Have your parents ever said to you, "You're not allowed to date until this date." No, and I'm not saying they should restrict you, but they should portray how they feel at the very least. A lot of kids don't know when it's okay with their parents to start dating, including me. My idealism would dictate that parents allow their kids to go on dates as they please somewhere during seventh grade. That's a big changing-grade, so all of those new feelings are given reassurance and you feel like you don't have to have an awkward conversation or ever feel restricted.
Evaluate what's holding you back. If you really want to date someone.. ew, I was just going to say talk to your parents about it. I know that that's the normal advice, but let's face it, very few of us have the guts to go to our parents and ask when we're allowed to date. Countless follow-up questions would surface. If it's your parents negligence that is holding you back... Well, then, think of when you see society is saying it's okay (Parents surprisingly can't argue with society). If there's a legitimate dating dance, then it's okay to date (eighth grade dance does NOT count). If EVERYONE is dating, it's okay to date. Try and put off the dating thing, I say. But when those feelings come your way, find out what is holding you back SPECIFICALLY, and try and get around them.
Parents are difficult. Maybe a letter would work. Try that, perhaps. The real problem is when you're a guy, and you're afraid of the girl's parents. Heh. yet another excuse, Vwalah.
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